You're so emotional!
Need emotional Rx? Here are some gentle teachings from gentle teachers:
Am I overreacting to a situation again?
Finding the root cause of a habitual overreaction may be necessary to fully release it. When there is an emotion or a feeling that is causing you to spin of control, the suggestions on this clip by Roger Castillo can help you identify what is underneath the surface and unleash the beast.
Want to live with an open heart?
It is said that holding onto resentment is like taking poison, hoping the other person will die. Like acid, hatred corrodes the container it’s held in. We human beings have been dealing (not necessarily well) with emotions since our time on earth began. Bad feelings are not easy to turn off, but when we are willing to notice the thoughts attached to them instead of trying to limit or avoid them, they pass.
R. O. A. D.
Road to peaceful compromise begins when emotions are first brought under control….
Only way to resolve problems and difficulties with others is not by battling with them, but by showing your willingness to seek a peaceful solution….
Always remember reaching a satisfactory conclusion requires that everyone must first yield so everyone can gain….
Develop the attitude to listen to the other person, don’t interrupt, be respectful, and strive to see the other’s point of view….
IS IT TIME TO WALK AWAY?
I have a friend who is easily upset and gets very emotional. I probably would not have learned to become the much calmer, understanding, and more tolerant person I’ve grown into being if I had not been in relationship with this woman.
She doesn’t seem to mind being on an emotional roller coaster and has told me she is unwilling to change or seek help. Is there a way to tell her or any friend I’m not enjoying being with them anymore and don’t like taking their phone calls without causing them pain?
This friend has been a great blessing to you. It seems that her emotionalism is only a problem for you, not her. Something brought you to the realization you had to change your behavior and become a “calmer, understanding, and more tolerant person” in interactions with this friend to stay in a relationship with her. You consciously or unconsciously made this choice to change your thinking and behavior – and good for you!
Now she is blessing you again. This time it is with an opportunity to learn to take care of yourself by requiring you to experience the discomfort of letting go of a relationship you don’t enjoy. You in turn, will be a blessing to friends by gently being honest. This lets a person of her temperament experience the natural consequences of choosing to stay “on an emotional roller coaster.” The pain of a lost friendship may bring a highly emotional person to the realization he or she does want to learn to change their behavior. Or not. This way you are both taking care of yourself while giving a friend the dignity of making their own choice!
The ultimate fear: If I do walk away, what if my loved one dies?